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What Are Men Supposed to Do Now?

More In Common Podcast

In this episode, Keith Richardson, Gerren Taylor, and Nicholas Miller unpack the confusion, pressure, and possibility surrounding modern masculinity. As social expectations shift, many men are left asking: What am I supposed to do now?

Rather than framing masculinity as something broken, this conversation reframes it as evolving—and explores how healthier models of masculinity can foster connection, purpose, and emotional resilience.
The episode examines male identity, privilege, vulnerability, and the importance of supportive male relationships, while challenging shame-based narratives that leave men isolated. Through personal stories and sociological insight, the hosts offer a grounded, human approach to masculinity that prioritizes listening, growth, and belonging.

🕒 Episode Chapters
00:00 — Introduction
Why masculinity feels confusing right now
02:03 — Masculinity in a Changing World
What happens when social expectations shift without a roadmap
06:45 — “What Am I Supposed to Do?”
The emotional cost of uncertainty for men
09:52 — Privilege, Backlash, and Defensiveness
Understanding positional power without shame
14:20 — Masculinity Isn’t Broken
Why masculinity evolves instead of disappears
15:52 — Healthier Models of Masculinity
Strength paired with empathy and accountability
20:43 — Male Friendship and Community
Why men struggle to build emotionally supportive relationships
24:10 — Listening Without Fixing
The power of presence over performance
27:51 — Finding Belonging Beyond Bars and Gyms
Rethinking how men connect socially
31:44 — Closing Reflections
What growth-oriented masculinity can look like moving forward

🧠 Key Takeaways
Masculinity isn’t broken—it’s evolving
Men are navigating shifting expectations without clear guidance
Vulnerability strengthens connection, not weakness
Privilege is positional, not personal
Listening without fixing is a critical relational skill
Healthy masculinity requires community and support

💬 Memorable Quotes
“Masculinity isn’t broken—it evolves.”
“We don’t need less masculinity, we need healthier models of it.”
“Sometimes, you just need to listen without fixing.”

🔑 Keywords & Topics
modern masculinity, male identity, men’s mental health, privilege, vulnerability, gender roles, emotional intelligence, male friendship, masculinity studies, social connection, More In Common Podcast

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Family Dynamics, Masculinity, And Meeting the Moment

Keywords

masculinity, code-switching, social connections, loneliness epidemic, impression management, gender roles, community building, emotional literacy, fatherhood, societal expectations

Summary

This conversation delves into the complexities of masculinity, exploring themes of code-switching, societal expectations, and the importance of community. The speakers share personal experiences and insights on how men navigate their identities in a rapidly changing world, emphasizing the need for emotional literacy and connection to combat loneliness and isolation.

Takeaways

Code-switching is a form of impression management in social contexts.
Masculinity is often defined by societal expectations and personal experiences.
The loneliness epidemic among men is linked to a lack of social connections.
Men often struggle to find their place within traditional masculine roles.
Mentorship from older generations can provide valuable perspectives on masculinity.
Community building is essential for men's mental health and well-being.
Emotional literacy should be viewed as a vital skill for modern masculinity.
Men need to adapt their definitions of masculinity to meet evolving societal norms.
The influence of media and culture shapes men's understanding of masculinity.
Navigating masculinity involves recognizing and embracing vulnerability. 

Sound bites

"Life is a game. It's all dramaturgy."
"Men heal in community."
"Men need to meet the moment."

Chapters

00:00 The Complexity of Masculinity and Code-Switching
07:13 Navigating Masculinity Through Personal Experiences
15:17 The Influence of Family Dynamics on Masculinity
20:02 Exploring Community and Connection in Masculinity
27:51 Redefining Masculinity for Modern Relationships

 

About the Guest
Nicholas Miller is a tenured sociology professor at Sacramento City College, founder of multiple workforce pipeline programs, and co-founder of nationally recognized initiatives supporting justice-impacted students. He is also the founder of Conduits for Change, partnering with organizations to build equity-driven cultures and sustainable community impact.

 

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Modern Masculinity: What does it mean?

In this episode of More In Common, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson sit down with sociologist and systems-change strategist Nicholas Miller to explore the evolving meaning of masculinity in today’s world.

Using public conversations around modern masculinity—including ideas popularized by Scott Galloway—as a starting point, the group examines how masculinity has always been shaped by economic systems, social expectations, and access to opportunity. They discuss why narratives around rugged individualism, dominance, and self-reliance no longer serve most men—and never truly served everyone equally.

The conversation addresses the growing male loneliness crisis, the misdirection of resentment toward women and immigrants, and why redefining masculinity isn’t about blame—but about reconnection. Rather than offering a single definition, the episode makes space for multiple masculinities rooted in care, accountability, protection, and community.

This episode launches a multi-part series exploring masculinity, identity, and what it means to belong in a rapidly changing world.

 

Key Takeaways

• Masculinity is socially constructed, not biologically fixed

• There has never been one “correct” way to be a man

• Economic systems shape identity more than we admit

• Loneliness is a structural issue, not a personal failure

• Blame narratives distract from systemic causes

• Protection, care, and accountability are undervalued masculine traits

• Redefining masculinity is essential for healthier relationships and communities

Chapter Timestamps

00:00 – Why Masculinity Is Having a Moment
02:45 – What People Mean When They Say “Masculinity Is Broken”
06:10 – Masculinity as a Social and Economic Construction
10:55 – Rugged Individualism: Who It Served and Who It Didn’t
15:30 – The Male Loneliness Epidemic
19:40 – Why Resentment Gets Misplaced
24:10 – Patriarchy, Feminism, and Misunderstanding Power
28:50 – Multiple Masculinities Across Race and Class
33:20 – Protection vs. Domination
38:10 – Redefining Masculinity Through Connection
42:30 – Why This Conversation Is Just Beginning

About the Guest

Nicholas Miller is a tenured sociology professor at Sacramento City College, founder of multiple workforce pipeline programs, and co-founder of nationally recognized initiatives supporting justice-impacted students. He is also the founder of Conduits for Change, partnering with organizations to build equity-driven cultures and sustainable community impact.

 

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Give me the JIGGLE: A Thanksgiving Special

Keywords

Thanksgiving, family dynamics, conversation strategies, emotional intelligence, holiday stress, boundaries, gratitude, family traditions, communication tips, conflict resolution

Summary

In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson discuss the complexities of family dynamics during Thanksgiving. They share personal anecdotes and explore the emotional tensions that can arise during family gatherings. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, establishing boundaries, and navigating difficult conversations with curiosity and grace. The hosts provide practical strategies for maintaining peace and fostering meaningful connections, ultimately highlighting the significance of gratitude and shared experiences during the holiday season.

Takeaways

Self-awareness is crucial when navigating family dynamics.
Thanksgiving can bring out old tensions and unresolved issues.
Establishing boundaries early can help manage conversations.
Don't try to win Thanksgiving; focus on connection instead.
Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it is optional.
Use curiosity to navigate difficult conversations.
Take a moment to breathe and reset during tense discussions.
It's important to protect your peace and honor your boundaries.
Focus on the small moments that strengthen family bonds.
Gratitude and connection are the true essence of Thanksgiving.

Sound bites

"Don't try to win Thanksgiving."
"Take a beat, take a breath."
"You don't have to fix your family."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Holiday Reflections
02:51 Thanksgiving Memories and Family Dynamics
06:19 Navigating Family Tensions During Holidays
12:11 Strategies for a Peaceful Thanksgiving
18:15 Building Relationships Through Understanding
24:00 Final Thoughts and Thanksgiving Traditions

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They’re not one of us! Unpacking the No True Scotsman Fallacy

Summary

In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the No True Scotsman logical fallacy, and the complexities of belonging and identity in social movements. They discuss how purity tests can create division and the importance of empathy and curiosity in fostering deeper connections within communities. The dialogue emphasizes the need for inclusivity and understanding in navigating diverse perspectives, ultimately advocating for a more open and accepting society.

Keywords

Hamilton, No True Scotsman, belonging, identity, purity tests, empathy, curiosity, social movements, community, inclusion

Takeaways

Hamilton is a cultural masterpiece that resonates across age groups.
The No True Scotsman fallacy highlights how definitions can be manipulated to protect beliefs.
Belonging is a fundamental human need that can lead to gatekeeping behaviors.
Purity tests often stem from fear and can create division within communities.
Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding our biases and beliefs.
Curiosity can deepen connections and foster inclusivity.
Empathy allows for more meaningful conversations and understanding.
Rigid beliefs can hinder personal growth and community development.
Inclusivity can exist alongside standards without creating barriers.
The dynamic nature of identity requires openness to diverse experiences.

Sound bites

"It's a purity test that has no definition."
"We have combat instead of conflict."
"It's about protecting your comfort."

Chapters

00:00 The Cultural Impact of Hamilton
03:04 Understanding the No True Scotsman Fallacy
05:44 Belonging and Identity in Social Movements
08:24 Purity Tests and Their Consequences
11:15 Navigating Emotional Awareness and Resilience
14:05 The Role of Curiosity in Community Building
16:29 The Semi-Permeable Nature of Identity
18:52 Conclusion: Embracing Diversity and Connection

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How Conversations Get Ugly: Ad Hominem & Ego

Summary

In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor delve into the topic of logical fallacies, particularly focusing on ad hominem attacks. They explore the different forms of ad hominem, how these fallacies manifest in political discourse, and the emotional triggers that lead to such attacks. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence in navigating conversations and offers strategies to avoid falling into the trap of ad hominem reasoning. The hosts encourage listeners to engage with curiosity and to reflect on their responses in discussions.

Keywords

logical fallacies, ad hominem, emotional intelligence, political discourse, communication skills

Takeaways

Logical fallacies can hinder productive dialogue.
Ad hominem attacks focus on the person rather than the argument.
There are three forms of ad hominem: abusive, circumstantial, and tu quoque.
Emotional triggers often lead to ad hominem responses.
Political discourse is rife with ad hominem attacks.
Emotional intelligence helps in managing reactions during discussions.
Pausing before responding can prevent ad hominem attacks.
Curiosity in conversations fosters understanding.
Separating worth from words is crucial in discussions.
Growth often occurs in uncomfortable conversations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Logical Fallacies
02:53 Understanding Ad Hominem Fallacy
05:21 Forms of Ad Hominem Fallacy
08:03 Impact of Ad Hominem in Politics
10:36 Personal Relationships and Ad Hominem
13:24 Emotional Intelligence and Ad Hominem
15:49 Strategies to Avoid Ad Hominem
18:36 Real-World Applications of Ad Hominem
21:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Emotional Triggers & the Strawman Trap

Summary

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson delve into the concept of logical fallacies, specifically focusing on the straw man argument. They explore how these arguments manifest in discussions, the emotional implications behind them, and the importance of curiosity and clarity in communication. The hosts emphasize the need for emotional intelligence and community connection to navigate disagreements effectively, ultimately advocating for a more understanding and less combative approach to conversations.

Keywords

logical fallacies, straw man argument, emotional intelligence, communication, debate, curiosity, understanding, community, conflict resolution, conversation skills

Takeaways

Logical fallacies hinder effective communication.
Straw man arguments misrepresent others' views.
Emotional responses can cloud judgment in debates.
Curiosity leads to better understanding in discussions.
Seeking clarity can prevent misunderstandings.
Community validation is often sought after conflict.
Emotional intelligence is crucial in conversations.
Avoiding straw man arguments requires active listening.
Asking questions fosters deeper connections.
Conflict is inevitable, but misunderstanding is optional.

Sound bites

"Curiosity is key to understanding."
"Let's just start there."
"Ask more questions."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Logical Fallacies
03:13 Understanding the Straw Man Argument
05:26 Real-World Implications of Straw Man Arguments
07:37 Navigating Emotional Responses in Arguments
10:35 The Role of Curiosity in Conversations
13:36 Strategies to Avoid Straw Man Arguments
16:37 The Importance of Clarity and Understanding
19:41 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Not Everything Is This or That

Keywords

conversation, clarity, logical fallacies, false dilemma, nuance, conflict, curiosity, communication, dialogue, understanding

Summary

In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the importance of clarity in communication, particularly in the context of logical fallacies. They delve into the concept of the false dilemma, discussing its prevalence in society and how it oversimplifies complex issues. The hosts emphasize the need for nuance in discussions, especially in today's polarized environment, and advocate for embracing curiosity and conflict as tools for better understanding and dialogue.

Takeaways

Clarity in conversation is essential for effective communication.
Logical fallacies, particularly the false dilemma, hinder productive discussions.
Nuance is crucial in understanding complex issues.
Real-world examples illustrate the dangers of oversimplifying arguments.
Conflict can be a healthy part of dialogue if navigated properly.
Curiosity about others' perspectives fosters better conversations.
Avoid categorizing people into binary groups to promote understanding.
Recognizing our cognitive biases can help us engage more thoughtfully.
Asking questions can help break down false dilemmas.
Embracing uncertainty can lead to deeper insights and connections.

Sound bites

"Let's make it easy from the beginning."
"The either or or false dilemma."
"Curiosity over certainty."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Clarity in Conversations
02:20 Real-World Examples of False Dilemmas
12:50 Navigating Nuance in Discussions
15:48 The Role of Conflict in Conversations
18:42 Embracing Curiosity Over Certainty

 

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The Power of Tell Me More

Summary

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson engage with guest Katie McCleary, an author and educator, discussing the transformative power of writing as a tool for healing and self-discovery. They explore the importance of curiosity in communication, the challenges of overcoming resistance in creative processes, and the need for authenticity in organizational culture. Katie shares insights on how writing can lead to freedom from trauma and the significance of meeting people where they are in their personal journeys. The conversation emphasizes the role of curiosity in fostering connection and understanding, ultimately aiming to create a more inclusive and supportive environment in both personal and professional settings.

Takeaways

Writing can provide freedom from trauma.
Imagination is a fundamental human gift.
The writing process should be non-prescriptive.
Curiosity helps in overcoming resistance.
Authenticity is crucial in the workplace.
Agility in communication is essential.
Curiosity can disrupt negative patterns.
Meeting people where they are fosters connection.
Writing can lead to personal growth and healing.
Creating a supportive environment is key.

 

Keywords

writing, trauma, communication, curiosity, authenticity, organizational culture, personal growth, storytelling, mental health, creativity

 

Sound bites

"Freedom from the trauma."
"You got to knock them off their seat."
"It's really hard to negate joy."

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Writing and Connection
11:18 Overcoming Resistance in Creative Expression
21:26 Curiosity as a Tool for Growth
29:06 Building Authentic Relationships in the Workplace

Treat yourself like fiction

Keywords

Bridge the Gap, #storytelling , #compassion , #workplacedynamics , emotional healing, #writing, curiosity, #identity, #humanconnection , personal growth

Summary

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson welcome Katie McCleary, author of 'Bridge the Gap' and founder of a youth writing nonprofit. The conversation explores the importance of storytelling, the role of writing in healing, and how curiosity can bridge divides in the workplace. Katie shares her personal journey, the impact of her background on her work, and the significance of understanding different perspectives. The discussion also delves into the challenges of judgment and the need for compassion in human interactions.

Takeaways

Katie McCleary emphasizes the power of storytelling in understanding human dynamics.
'Bridge the Gap' aims to address political polarization in workplaces.
Curiosity is essential for bridging differences between individuals.
Katie's background in poverty shapes her compassion for others.
Writing serves as a therapeutic tool for healing and connection.
The human ache to be seen and known is universal.
Different environments influence how stories are told and experienced.
Judgment is tied to our nervous system and affects our interactions.
The mind and brain are distinct, impacting our emotional responses.
Compassion and curiosity are vital for navigating tough conversations.

Sound bites

"We have personified the amygdala as Amy."
"I want to live in the limbic system."
"This conversation has always lived in therapy."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest
02:24 Katie's Origin Story and Passion for Storytelling
03:34 Bridging the Gap: Understanding Differences
05:52 The Journey of Collaboration: Katie and Jennifer's Story
08:29 Compassion and Curiosity in Challenging Environments
10:48 The Role of Writing in Healing and Connection
12:30 Writing as a Tool for Self-Discovery
16:41 The Impact of Environment on Storytelling
19:58 Judgment and the Human Experience
23:30 Navigating the Mind: Amy and the Lizard Brain
27:33 Conclusion and Future Conversations

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