More In Common Podcast
Patrick Furlong /// Venture into our Differences First /// E054

Patrick Furlong /// Venture into our Differences First /// E054

October 10, 2019

Patrick works as a Case Manager of Community of Care in Student Affairs at Loyola Marymount University. Before returning to his alma mater, he worked at TOMS Shoes, designing and leading international immersion experiences around the world for employees to connect to the mission of the company.

 

Patrick has lived in four different countries and traveled to over fifty countries. He is a big supporter of the global learning initiatives.

 

As an undergraduate, Patrick founded Magis, a student service organization dedicated to service, diversity, and spirituality. He was also a leader in Alternative Breaks, and studied abroad in Ireland. He was awarded the Robert Graham, SJ award in 2006, which is presented to one outstanding graduating senior man and one woman who have excelled in service and leadership throughout their undergraduate careers.

 

A man of many experiences and an amazing story teller.  We are excited to have him here today!

 

 

"Hope is the active conviction that despair won't have the last word"  Cory Booker

 

Topics we cover///

  • Curiosity and helping people find it so we can all be heard
  • Struggling with complexity and lack of binary choices
  • Millennials, decision making and how he sees them
  • Navigating appropriate action in the moment 
  • Growing up in New Mexico and how impactful that was to him
  • Running away from home due to his parents separating
  • Empathy vs. Compassion

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Credits:

 

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: "Mellow Record" by DJ Rufbeats created as a More In Common Podcast Exclusive. 

George Dover /// Unconditional Acceptance /// E053

George Dover /// Unconditional Acceptance /// E053

September 26, 2019

Today we are with George Dover.  George comes to us as he is the father of one of our early guests, Brescia Dover.  If you remember Brescia, she was our first conversation about Mental Health/Illness and George has a significant role in Brescia's journey.

He grew up Mormon, but has left the church and now claims himself as an Atheist.  All of this is relevant to the conversation. 

He is a skeptic at heart with a very open mind.  He values family above all else and has incredible perspectives on what it means to have unconditional acceptance. 

 

‘‘If you don't really believe the person is sick then it is really difficult to act appropriately” George Dover (about mental illness)

 

Topics we cover///

  • Being a dad of a daughter managing through mental health issues

    • What the evolution of her Anorexia looked like from his perspective.
    • Managing the relationship with Brescia's siblings
    • How they managed it without having exposure to it
    • What it was like when she ate for the first time
  • The use of the word Crazy
  • Growing up in the Mormon church and ultimately leaving the church
    • How it was with his family when he left the church
  • Being Skeptical but being open to listen which he uses to encourage conversation
  • His acceptance of others beliefs even though he wholeheartedly disagrees with them
    • Specifically how he accepts his Son's choice to go into the church
  • Unconditional Acceptance and how ultimate truths impact the ability to have unconditionality

 

References:

 

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: "One Day Prior"  DJ Rufbeats

Phil Terrill /// I can still be great /// E052

Phil Terrill /// I can still be great /// E052

September 12, 2019

Today we are with Phil Terrill.  Phil grew up in the city of Minneapolis, MN.  His upbringing was all about the pursuit of academic or athletic excellence.

 

While he hit some of those targets, his life took a different direction after college at Tuskegee, starting in Corporate America, Entrepreneurship, and on a journey to discover himself. Along the way, he did not realize that God had a very unique plan for his existence that would truly begin at an unexpected time after a life altering decision.

 

He wrote a book, Collision Course, about this unexpected turn as he drives full speed into the journey of how he turned his life's most challenging time into a massive, powerful breakthrough.

 

 

"Stay L.I.T. (Living In Triumph) and pour into your purpose"  Phil Terrill

 

Topics we cover///

  • The importance of God and Prayer in his life and how his dad was part of the Nation of Islam and his mom wasn't as religious but his grandparents were Baptist. 

    • Sister converted to Islam in College
  • His relationship with his dad and how his dad is the ultimate community man and that influence on him growing up and today
  • His pull between being a corporate employee and desire to be an entrepreneur
  • The impact of divorce on him and how it really impacted his relationship with his Sister
    • How this all led him to consider suicide in 9th grade and how his sister saved him
  • The accident that is the cornerstone to his book, collision Course, and how he blamed a lot of people early in recovery
    • How the family dynamic was drastically affected by his choice to drive
  • What it was like for him in the holding cell and the impact some conversations had on him

 

References:

 

 

Credits:

 

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: "High Life"-  DJ Rufbeats

JS /// Religious Freedom, Facebook, Politics, & More… /// E051

JS /// Religious Freedom, Facebook, Politics, & More… /// E051

August 29, 2019

This was recorded quite a few months ago so we are excited to finally bring it to you.  Today we are with JS…a fellow boilermaker (Purdue Grad) and all around interesting person.  JS comes to us with some very unique and thought provoking insights that make us want to record an entire year of episodes.

 

He is a musician and has been writing, recording and performing for 25 years.  After studying engineering, he went on to focus his energy in a band that would tour coast to coast.  Currently, his music career has him playing drums with Crisis Actor.  He also maintains his micro-label and collective called elle 2.0. 

 

He loves buffalo wings and happens to be a member of a religious institution in Indiana, which leads to a very interesting discussion and better understanding of what the Satanic Temple is and how we all probably share many ideals with it.

 

‘‘Try to be better tomorrow than you were today” JS

 

Topics we cover///

  • Religious freedom and how he sees religion and the belief in higher powers
  • Growing up in Indiana and fully going through the Catholic Church
  • The impact of traveling with the Punk band and how it impacted his perspective
  • How he has effectively engaged on Facebook and managed the dialogue
  • How John Wick could be the greatest trilogy of all time and a discussion about movies
  • His Feminist Views and views on Allyship
  • How he has developed a listen first approach

 

References:

 

Credits:

 

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: “Super Sloppy Space Junk” by Milkshake Daddy http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Milkshake_Daddy/Aquatic_Ape_Hypothesis/08_Super_Sloppy_Space_Junk

Jeff Tippett /// Help Others Find Their WIN /// E050

Jeff Tippett /// Help Others Find Their WIN /// E050

August 15, 2019

Known by audiences and fans as Mr. Persuasion, Jeff Tippett is a subject matter expert in persuasive communications. He helps people increase their effectiveness, gives them powerful tools for attaining goals and dreams, and helps them positively impact their organization—all as they learn techniques for communicating persuasively with others.

 

When results mattered most, renowned brands like Airbnb, The National Restaurant Association, The League of Women Voters, The League of Conservation have trusted Jeff to develop and implement communications plans to persuade elected officials, the media, and the general public. And as an expert on persuasive communications, Jeff continues to deliver results for influential clients.

 

Jeff has impacted thousands of lives through over 500 presentations including keynotes and seminars. Others feature Jeff’s expertise in persuasive communications through articles, podcasts, and blogs.

 

Jeff’s second book, Unleashing Your Superpower: Why Persuasive Communications is the Only Force You Will Ever Need, landed in Amazon’s #1 international best seller in multiple categories. It's definitely a recommended read.

 

 

‘‘I don't have to change their mind and I don't even have to agree with them, but I can still love them and realize there is a reason they think the way that they think and feel the way they feel ” - Jeff Tippett

 

 

Topics we cover ///

  • Authenticity and what it means to him
  • How he worked through being abused as an adolescence to embrace himself
  • Growing up and having a drill sergeant like dad and how it has led to his perspective now.
  • Adoption of a Haitian baby and the impact it had on his direction regarding Persuasive communication
    • What this experience has been like for him and for her since the adoption and coming home to the states
  • What is Persuasion and many tips and details to more effectively communicate
    • Persuasion vs. Manipulation

 

References:

 

 

Credits:

 

      Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: “Cinematic Trailer.” by scottholmesmusic.com freemusicarchive.org

Dolly Chugh /// Bounded Ethicality /// E049

Dolly Chugh /// Bounded Ethicality /// E049

August 1, 2019

Dolly Chugh is an award-winning, tenured professor at the New York University Stern School of Business. She studies the psychology of good people, or “bounded ethicality”.  Dolly teaches MBA courses in leadership, management, and negotiations.  Additionally, she has taught at a men’s prison through the NYU Prison Education Program at the Wallkill Correctional Facility, where she is currently running a book club.

Dolly’s first book, The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias (HarperCollins, 2018) has received acclaim from Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, Daniel Pink, Billie Jean King, Carol Dweck, David Thomas, and Angela Duckworth. 

Dolly’s research integrates the theories and methods of social psychology, behavioral economics, judgment and decision making, sociology, and education. Dolly has published more than 20 articles and book chapters on these topics in both top managerial and academic publications, such as the Harvard Business Review, Psychological Science, Administrative Science Quarterly, Academy of Management Journal, Journal of Applied Psychology, Research in Organizational Behavior, and The American Economic Review.

Dolly does a small number of select speaking engagements, which have recently included Starbucks’ corporate headquarters, Google, the American Museum of Natural History, and the Hollywood Commission on Sexual Harassment and Diversity chaired by Anita Hill.  Dolly’s 2018 TED Talk has been viewed more than 3 million times and was named one of The 25 Most Popular TED Talks of 2018.  Until recently, Dolly also wrote a monthly column about race, gender, diversity, inclusion, and bias for Forbes.com.

Dolly’s work has appeared in Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, What Works by Iris Bohnet and Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly, as well as a recent White House Council of Economic Advisors Issue Brief. She has appeared on the Melissa Harris-Perry Show on MSNBC and Bloomberg News, as well as numerous podcasts, including Choiceology and 10% Happier.  Her research is regularly featured in numerous media outlets, including National Public Radio, NBC News, Quartz, goop, CNBC.com, Scientific American, Forbes, The Washington Post, CosmoGirl, The New York Times, The Economist, The Huffington Post, The Financial Times, and The Stanford Social Innovation Review. Her first-authored Sunday New York Times Op-Ed, titled “Professors Are Prejudiced, Too” (with Katherine Milkman and Modupe Akinola), was in that weekend’s Top 20 most-emailed/read/tweeted articles.

Dolly has been named one of the Top 100 Most Influential People in Business Ethics (a list that included Pope Francis, Angelina Jolie, and Bill Gates) by Ethisphere Magazine, a finalist for the Faculty Rising Star Pioneer Award by the Aspen Institute, and the recipient of the prestigious New York University Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Faculty Award (whose past recipients include Bryan Stevenson). As one of the most highly rated business school professors at New York University, she received the Stern School of Business Teaching Excellence Award in 2015.

Prior to becoming an academic, Dolly worked at Morgan Stanley, Time Inc., Scholastic, and Merrill Lynch. Dolly received a B.A. from Cornell University, where she earned a double major in Psychology and Economics and served as a two-time co-captain of the Varsity Tennis Team (1990); an M.B.A. from the Harvard Business School (1994); and a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior / Social Psychology from Harvard University (2006).

In addition, Dolly has played a central role as a faculty member in the KIPP Charter School network's renowned School Leadership Programs since 2008. She also mentors several first-generation college students and their families.

 

“It’s OK to keep learning”

— DOLLY CHUGH

Topics we cover///

  • Forks Up vs. Forks down and other Dishwasher etiquette

  • Her path from working as an investment banker to becoming a renowned researcher and professor

  • Bounded Ethicality

    • What it is

    • How it came to be

  • Her parents

    • Their Influence

    • A portion of their immigration story

  • What it was like growing up for her as often the only Indian girl in school

  • Headwinds and Tailwinds from Debbie Irving and how it impacts people culturally

  • Discussing Unconscious bias, science that supports it and how it plays into be a Good-ish person

 

References:

 

 Credits:

 Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

 

Music:

 Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: "Palladian" by Blue Dot Sessions freemusicarchive.org

Pete Mulroy  /// I can do anything…I learned to walk and talk /// E048

Pete Mulroy /// I can do anything…I learned to walk and talk /// E048

July 17, 2019

Pete Mulroy grew up outside of Detroit, MI.  After graduating with a degree in astrophysics and a stint with NASA, he returned to graduate school to study planetary atmospheres, to launch a sounding rocket and to work at JPL.  He has a deep passion for history and understanding what the past means for today.  He now lives in Italy as he has always been a dual citizen, gracing people with his knowledge of Roman history as a City Tour Guide. 

Talking to Pete is always an opportunity to learn and have a great discussion.

 

Pet Mulroy "I'm a product of where I group up.  At NASA the people of color I knew were PhDs in Astrophysics."

 

Topics we cover///

  • 20 years in Italy and an interest in U.S. Politics
  • What it's like in Italy discussing politics and difficult conversations
  • His growing up…
    • …path to working at the Jet propulsion lab
    • … then off to Italy
  • The Movie he created
  • His philosophy on being able to learn to walk and talk as a motivator to accomplishment
  • We talk about The American dream,
    • the peak of it
    • the nature of where it is now
    • how he thinks the breaking of the Air Traffic control union impacted job availability
  • The Relationship of business to its employees
  • And More!!

 

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Credits:

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: Pointless Lullaby by septahelix (c) copyright 2019 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial  (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/septahelix/59625

Q Washington /// Grace and Truth /// E047

Q Washington /// Grace and Truth /// E047

July 4, 2019

Q has been working with human beings for over 30 years and loves almost every second of it.  Q studied Biblical Studies at Biola University and completed his AA at Fullerton College.

 For the last eight years he has been able to pour his mind, body and soul into a frontline relational evangelism ministry in Hollywood called Broken Hearts, where he currently serves as the Executive Director.  Prior to Broken Hearts, he invested his time into various communities in the Los Angeles and Orange county areas.  From Planting Churches in Watts with World Impact, to soup kitchens in Costa Mesa with Rock Harbor Church, to leading sports camps youth groups with Fellowship of Christian Athletes Q has been able to love on the spectrum on faces and places. 

 In addition, he is a coach on the USA traveling Woman's Flag Football Network team and the coach of SHE Unit in the Woman's Flag Football Network.  He is a kind soul and great human being.  It is our pleasure to sit down with him and connect. 

‘‘If we approach people with gentleness in every scenario or a little bit of patience or a little bit of love then it would've erased the feeling of a stigma    ”  Q

Topics we cover///

  • Coaching women's Flag Football and how he got there.

    • Getting set up to coach the WFFN USA team

    • His teams and all the athletes he coaches

  • Men coaching females and what the culture is in WFFN about that

  • The use of "Girl" when referring to women

  • His non-profit's communication guidelines and how it is anchored on Grace and Truth

  • Growing up to a single, young mom and how they grew up with her mom.

    • Needing social assistance

    • Being homeless

    • Using food stamps

  • His Non Profit, Broken Heart's Ministry

     

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Nick Jones Jr. /// The Marines to Hollywood /// E046

Nick Jones Jr. /// The Marines to Hollywood /// E046

June 20, 2019

Nick is a multi-hyphenated African-American military veteran. He writes both dramatic character-driven sci-fi/action and is also a fantastic comedy writer who staffed on the final season of Hulu’s CASUAL. Nick was accepted into the highly esteemed Sundance Episodic Lab for his pilot, JONESIN. Nick wrote and directed the award winning short film, COLD CHOICES, starring Neil Brown Jr. After which he was the military advisor for Shia LaBeouf and Gary Oldman in the psychological thriller, MAN DOWN. Nick recently signed a feature deal with Paramount. He was later served as showrunner for the upcoming Japanese-anime Netflix series, YASUKE, based on the first black samurai, starring Lakeith Stanfield. Nick moved to Los Angeles after his final tour in the Marine Corps, during which he served our country for over a decade with honors.  

 

‘‘I never expected to be here. I always knew this journey was improbable. I’ve never been on a journey that wasn’t.” Barack Obama

 

Topics we cover///

  • As a black Marine, we discuss his opinion on Colin Kaepernick and what it means to fight for freedom
  • His family history in the military and what drew him to the Marines
    • Some of his experience in the marines and how he approached it
  • Growing up in Alabama
  • When you know it's profiling even if it disguised as otherwise
  • Transitioning from the active duty to a career and how supportive people were
    • How he stayed plugged in.
  • The personal impact Obama had on him and the couple weeks he spent with him
  • His experience as a writer in Hollywood and his process to write stories
  • His project for Netflix, Yasuke

 

References:

  • Nick Jones Jr.
  • Bill Duke
  • Museum in Montgomery and lynching exhibit
  • Definition of Swole
  • Obama's Show on Netflix
  • YASUKE
  • Flying Lotus
  • 3 Below
  • Phil Hay Episode

 

 

Credits:

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: Mauerspechte (the light) ditto ditto by ASHWAN (c) copyright 2014 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial  (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ashwan/48192

Allie Lucchetti /// It’s OK to have Anxiety /// E045

Allie Lucchetti /// It’s OK to have Anxiety /// E045

June 6, 2019

Allie Lucchetti is the founder of AllRootsWellness, a healthy lifestyle blog that started as a safe space to share her journey of managing anxiety disorder through healthy living and 360 wellness. From healthified recipes and superfoods to mindfulness, movement and mind-hacking, Allie shares her honest approach to staying sane in today’s busy world.

 

 

Allie Lucchetti "When you say no to something you're actually saying yes to yourself "

 

Topics we cover///

  • Impact of words such as No and Should on managing mental health and her anxiety
  • Having Anxiety at a young age and what that experience was like for her
  • The way we process differently even if we experience the same thing
  • How Anxiety manifests for her and ultimately how she manages it
  • Coming off Anxiety medication and all the ways she manages with exercise, meditation, and nutrition

 

References:

 

Music:

 

Main Theme: "I dunno" by grapes (c) copyright 2008 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/grapes/16626 Ft: J Lang, Morusqu

Guest theme: Kalte Ohren (septahelix remix) by septahelix (c) copyright 2019 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/septahelix/59527 Ft: starfrosch